How to Handle Drama in Middle School
Steer clear., Try to stay out of trouble., Don't do things people would find socially unacceptable., Assume that no matter how hard you tried, drama found you., Stop rumors quickly., Deal with friends who are not so friendly., Don't take people...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Steer clear.
If you really want to avoid drama, stay away from it in the first place! Start by distancing yourself from people you know are gossipers or who tend to have drama following them everywhere.
Don't push away any real friends, but try to change the subject when gossiping comes up.
If you get the reputation of being a gossiper, people will start to gossip about you.
It's a never ending cycle, really. -
Step 2: Try to stay out of trouble.
We all know that one kid who went to the office for something minor, and as the story spread it became more and more complicated and their crime increased.
If you don't want people whispering that you were in the principals office and making a huge story about that fist fight you had, don't go to the office in the first place! , Don't stop being you, but there's a thin line between self confidence and arrogance.
Here's an example: let's say you accidentally ran into someone in the hall and they dropped their stuff.
No big deal right? By apologizing and helping them pick up their stuff, you're steering clear of gossipers who could quickly change the story.
Let's say you didn't help them but continued to class.
This story could quickly turn into:
You book checked someone in the hall and ran off so they were late to class.
By doing the right thing, you've stopped a nasty rumor about yourself. , This section is all about how to deal with it. , If there is a rumor going around about you, stop it in its tracks.
Do not go up one table in the cafeteria and yell out: "The rumor about me is a lie!".
Try a more subtle approach.
If someone mentions it while talking to you, just laugh and explain what actually happened instead of punching them in the face like you really want to.
They will explain to the next person that brings it up around them, and so on.
Don't force it into the conversation, but don't just sit there and do nothing either.
If you explain what happened to your friends, they will stick up for you. , What if your friends are the problem? Maybe they started something, or a rumor pushed you apart.
Try to work it out first.
If you two really can't come to agreement about something, distance yourself for a bit.
This will give both of you time to cool down and think about what happened.
When you see them at school, act friendly but try not to engage in a full conversation until something is worked out.
This conversation could turn into accusations very quickly.
Try talking with a teacher or parent, and, if you must, another friend.
Make sure this friend will not increase the drama and tension between you and the other friend fighting. , If someone makes fun of what you are wearing, don't take it personally, they are just trying to hurt your feelings, do not be rude just say "you are not wearing them, I am," then just walk off.
Do not say it rudely, say it with confidence. , If someone calls you names like loser, dork, Muppet, brat, etc, just do not respond and act like you don't care. , It will show that you are confident and strong. , If they are your real friends and not fakers, they will really help with all the drama and be there for you. , Tell whoever put you in a bad mood to just back off and leave you alone! Hopefully they eventually apologize , If the drama increases to the point of a fight, here's what to do.
First, out your hands up with your palms open and out, the universal sign of stop.
If a teacher or witness sees this, it looks better then you two with your fists raised at each other, and you look like the victim that you are.
If punches start to get thrown, don't fight back.
Try blocking with your arms that are raised in the air. -
Step 3: Don't do things people would find socially unacceptable.
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Step 4: Assume that no matter how hard you tried
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Step 5: drama found you.
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Step 6: Stop rumors quickly.
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Step 7: Deal with friends who are not so friendly.
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Step 8: Don't take people mocking your style personally.
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Step 9: Do not let others get to you.
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Step 10: Smile and still act friendly to the people who bully you.
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Step 11: Know who your real friends are.
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Step 12: Stand up for yourself.
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Step 13: Demand cessation.
Detailed Guide
If you really want to avoid drama, stay away from it in the first place! Start by distancing yourself from people you know are gossipers or who tend to have drama following them everywhere.
Don't push away any real friends, but try to change the subject when gossiping comes up.
If you get the reputation of being a gossiper, people will start to gossip about you.
It's a never ending cycle, really.
We all know that one kid who went to the office for something minor, and as the story spread it became more and more complicated and their crime increased.
If you don't want people whispering that you were in the principals office and making a huge story about that fist fight you had, don't go to the office in the first place! , Don't stop being you, but there's a thin line between self confidence and arrogance.
Here's an example: let's say you accidentally ran into someone in the hall and they dropped their stuff.
No big deal right? By apologizing and helping them pick up their stuff, you're steering clear of gossipers who could quickly change the story.
Let's say you didn't help them but continued to class.
This story could quickly turn into:
You book checked someone in the hall and ran off so they were late to class.
By doing the right thing, you've stopped a nasty rumor about yourself. , This section is all about how to deal with it. , If there is a rumor going around about you, stop it in its tracks.
Do not go up one table in the cafeteria and yell out: "The rumor about me is a lie!".
Try a more subtle approach.
If someone mentions it while talking to you, just laugh and explain what actually happened instead of punching them in the face like you really want to.
They will explain to the next person that brings it up around them, and so on.
Don't force it into the conversation, but don't just sit there and do nothing either.
If you explain what happened to your friends, they will stick up for you. , What if your friends are the problem? Maybe they started something, or a rumor pushed you apart.
Try to work it out first.
If you two really can't come to agreement about something, distance yourself for a bit.
This will give both of you time to cool down and think about what happened.
When you see them at school, act friendly but try not to engage in a full conversation until something is worked out.
This conversation could turn into accusations very quickly.
Try talking with a teacher or parent, and, if you must, another friend.
Make sure this friend will not increase the drama and tension between you and the other friend fighting. , If someone makes fun of what you are wearing, don't take it personally, they are just trying to hurt your feelings, do not be rude just say "you are not wearing them, I am," then just walk off.
Do not say it rudely, say it with confidence. , If someone calls you names like loser, dork, Muppet, brat, etc, just do not respond and act like you don't care. , It will show that you are confident and strong. , If they are your real friends and not fakers, they will really help with all the drama and be there for you. , Tell whoever put you in a bad mood to just back off and leave you alone! Hopefully they eventually apologize , If the drama increases to the point of a fight, here's what to do.
First, out your hands up with your palms open and out, the universal sign of stop.
If a teacher or witness sees this, it looks better then you two with your fists raised at each other, and you look like the victim that you are.
If punches start to get thrown, don't fight back.
Try blocking with your arms that are raised in the air.
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