How to Cope With a Teen Driver
Know that the teenage driver is experiencing a flood of emotions/thoughts just as you are., Try discussing the scenario with them., See if they have any questions that you may be able to answer., Give them some tips., Are you paying for their...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Know that the teenage driver is experiencing a flood of emotions/thoughts just as you are.
Different emotions, maybe, but not definitely.
Know how they are feeling before blaming them. -
Step 2: Try discussing the scenario with them.
If they are just learning to drive, they may be scared to be driving.
If they are experienced at driving, maybe they are making plans to move out.
Do they have a job? Are they paying for their own insurance? , It's quite likely that they have TONS, and remember to keep the door open for future questions! , Be tactful however.
Don't yell at them and then tell them how to do something, rather show them how something has helped you. , Is the price too high for you to handle? Why not suggest that they get a job.
Tell them that driving is a privilege, and that if they want that privilege to continue, they have to be responsible and earn it through their work, just as an adult would have to.
This will teach them budgeting skills for the future. , Maybe your teenage driver could take a bit of your load! On the way to school, they can take their siblings to their school also.
Just remember, if this is going to make the older child late for school/work, that this may not be an option.
Do not put a burden on the young adult that they may not be able to handle. , If not, this can obviously be a very difficult situation.
See if you can help the teenager to get a job (if they do not already have one.) then, drive them to work for a few weeks (or months, if need be) so that they have enough money to get a car.
Or, maybe you could get them a car, then they can drive themselves to work, and they can pay the monthly payments for the car.
That would take the majority of the cost (aside from the down-payment) off of your shoulders, but would give the starting grounds for the teenager. , Well, if they have their own car, pay for their insurance, and have a job, there isn't a TON you can do.
However, you can assure them that bad behavior leads to bad ends.
Are their grades low? Are they hanging out with the wrong people? Are they staying out too late? Discuss it with them.
Driving is a privilege, a privilege that you can take away from them.
Be ready to compromise your own standards.
STICK TO IT! Give them a curfew if they are staying out too late.
If they can stick to it for 2 months, then you give them an hour and a half later curfew.
If they are hanging with the wrong crowd, tell them that you will be inquiring where they will be going for the next two months, and that you will be popping in whenever you feel like doing so.
Are their grades low? Tell them that they will not be allowed to go out past X time until they get their grades up to your standards. , If they get their licence the soonest possible, they will have only two more years that they have to spend with you, (in the US,) so if you upset them too much, what can you expect? They will just want to get out of there as soon as possible.
And you don't want that, do you? , Put a sticky note on their dashboard saying "____, be at home at _:__ tonight, I need to talk to you.
Love, Mom (or whatever title works). -
Step 3: See if they have any questions that you may be able to answer.
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Step 4: Give them some tips.
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Step 5: Are you paying for their insurance?
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Step 6: Do you have other children that you are constantly taking places?
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Step 7: Does your teenage driver have their own car?
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Step 8: Is your teenager abusing his/her new-found freedom?
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Step 9: Do not EVER yell at
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Step 10: criticize
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Step 11: or lie to a teenager.
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Step 12: DISCUSS the situation with them.
Detailed Guide
Different emotions, maybe, but not definitely.
Know how they are feeling before blaming them.
If they are just learning to drive, they may be scared to be driving.
If they are experienced at driving, maybe they are making plans to move out.
Do they have a job? Are they paying for their own insurance? , It's quite likely that they have TONS, and remember to keep the door open for future questions! , Be tactful however.
Don't yell at them and then tell them how to do something, rather show them how something has helped you. , Is the price too high for you to handle? Why not suggest that they get a job.
Tell them that driving is a privilege, and that if they want that privilege to continue, they have to be responsible and earn it through their work, just as an adult would have to.
This will teach them budgeting skills for the future. , Maybe your teenage driver could take a bit of your load! On the way to school, they can take their siblings to their school also.
Just remember, if this is going to make the older child late for school/work, that this may not be an option.
Do not put a burden on the young adult that they may not be able to handle. , If not, this can obviously be a very difficult situation.
See if you can help the teenager to get a job (if they do not already have one.) then, drive them to work for a few weeks (or months, if need be) so that they have enough money to get a car.
Or, maybe you could get them a car, then they can drive themselves to work, and they can pay the monthly payments for the car.
That would take the majority of the cost (aside from the down-payment) off of your shoulders, but would give the starting grounds for the teenager. , Well, if they have their own car, pay for their insurance, and have a job, there isn't a TON you can do.
However, you can assure them that bad behavior leads to bad ends.
Are their grades low? Are they hanging out with the wrong people? Are they staying out too late? Discuss it with them.
Driving is a privilege, a privilege that you can take away from them.
Be ready to compromise your own standards.
STICK TO IT! Give them a curfew if they are staying out too late.
If they can stick to it for 2 months, then you give them an hour and a half later curfew.
If they are hanging with the wrong crowd, tell them that you will be inquiring where they will be going for the next two months, and that you will be popping in whenever you feel like doing so.
Are their grades low? Tell them that they will not be allowed to go out past X time until they get their grades up to your standards. , If they get their licence the soonest possible, they will have only two more years that they have to spend with you, (in the US,) so if you upset them too much, what can you expect? They will just want to get out of there as soon as possible.
And you don't want that, do you? , Put a sticky note on their dashboard saying "____, be at home at _:__ tonight, I need to talk to you.
Love, Mom (or whatever title works).
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