How to Get Your Daughter to Do What You Ask

Implement a token economy, if your daughter is preschool-elementary school aged., Help and encourage her., Praise her often.

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Step-by-Step Guide

  1. Step 1: Implement a token economy

    This involves awarding her a small token, like a gold star, for specified behaviors.

    Upon collecting a specified number of tokens, she can trade them in for a larger prize, like a toy or special dessert.For example, if you want your daughter to complete her chores regularly, create a list of chores you want her to do, and put a star on it each time she completes one.

    Once she has earned a specified number of stars, say ten, she can trade them in for a new toy.
  2. Step 2: if your daughter is preschool-elementary school aged.

    Recognize the difference between what your child can do on her own and what she can do with your help and encouragement.If you want her to start doing her own laundry, first have her do the laundry with you.

    After doing this a few times, she should be able to complete the task on her own.

    A more knowledgeable other is required to help her develop new skills.

    If you are not skilled at the task yourself, you might consider enlisting a tutor.

    In this case a tutor is any person skilled at the task and not necessarily paid homework help. , Praise is a powerful motivator for good behavior.

    No matter what age your daughter is, she will appreciate it when you acknowledge her efforts.

    Offering more praise than criticism will keep your daughter feeling positive and encourage her to keep up the good work.

    When your daughter completes a task, tell her thank you and praise her for a job well done.

    Even if your daughter's behavior has room for improvement, look for reasons to praise her and focus on those.
  3. Step 3: Help and encourage her.

  4. Step 4: Praise her often.

Detailed Guide

This involves awarding her a small token, like a gold star, for specified behaviors.

Upon collecting a specified number of tokens, she can trade them in for a larger prize, like a toy or special dessert.For example, if you want your daughter to complete her chores regularly, create a list of chores you want her to do, and put a star on it each time she completes one.

Once she has earned a specified number of stars, say ten, she can trade them in for a new toy.

Recognize the difference between what your child can do on her own and what she can do with your help and encouragement.If you want her to start doing her own laundry, first have her do the laundry with you.

After doing this a few times, she should be able to complete the task on her own.

A more knowledgeable other is required to help her develop new skills.

If you are not skilled at the task yourself, you might consider enlisting a tutor.

In this case a tutor is any person skilled at the task and not necessarily paid homework help. , Praise is a powerful motivator for good behavior.

No matter what age your daughter is, she will appreciate it when you acknowledge her efforts.

Offering more praise than criticism will keep your daughter feeling positive and encourage her to keep up the good work.

When your daughter completes a task, tell her thank you and praise her for a job well done.

Even if your daughter's behavior has room for improvement, look for reasons to praise her and focus on those.

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