How to Accept That You Are Gay
Know if you are gay., Remember that you didn't choose to be attracted to members of the same sex., Tell yourself that for people to accept you, first you must accept yourself., Remember that being gay does not require you to conform to typical gay...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Know if you are gay.
Sometimes people question their sexuality.
There are many degrees of sexual and gender orientation and identity, and if you find you don't fit easily into one category, don't pick one! Don't allow yourself to be labeled until, or unless, you are ready and willing to be.
If you feel that you don't fit, or you can't understand why you aren't like other people in your life because you are different, remember that you are you, and not anyone else; and that being yourself and accepting yourself for the person that you are is something to be immensely proud of. -
Step 2: Remember that you didn't choose to be attracted to members of the same sex.
Attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end.
When talking with heterosexual friends or family members, it's sometimes tough to help them understand this, because they have no frame of reference for your experience.
Try to encourage others to see your sexual orientation in the same way as they see your eye colour
- it is something you were born with and did not choose.
It is something that is simply a part of your being, and not something you can change.
Or want to or should! There isn't any need to change yourself
- being gay is just another way of simply existing, and there is nothing wrong with it at all.
Neither is there anything wrong with you for being gay.
Some people in the world believe that sexual orientation is a choice.
If you feel that you indeed made a choice, you should feel comfortable with that choice.
Everyone has their own battles and choices to make, and the norms of societies may not necessarily be normal for you. , If you can't accept your sexual orientation and feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, then other people find it harder to accept you fully.
It's your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise.
Tell yourself: "I am a person with feelings and intellect and a life, just like everyone else.
I am unique and individual, and no one has the right to choose my life for me.
The fact that I am gay is just another facet of who I am, just as being creative, or optimistic, or having brown eyes is.
I may not be like many of my friends, but I choose to live my life authentically and happily.
It's my life, and I choose to be happy."
Most people who are gay are indistinguishable from those that aren't.
They share the same interests, goals and dreams for their lives.
Being a homosexual person does not necessarily make you any less masculine or feminine, and there is no need or pressure to conform to stereotypes that don't feel right to you
- because you are who you are.
You do not need to fit into the gay community just as much as you don't need to fit into the straight community.
These are arbitrary social constructs.
Are boys inherently about football and burping? No.
Society has told them that that's okay.
In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different concept.
Don't pressure yourself to fit in one way or another. -
Step 3: Tell yourself that for people to accept you
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Step 4: first you must accept yourself.
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Step 5: Remember that being gay does not require you to conform to typical gay stereotypes.
Detailed Guide
Sometimes people question their sexuality.
There are many degrees of sexual and gender orientation and identity, and if you find you don't fit easily into one category, don't pick one! Don't allow yourself to be labeled until, or unless, you are ready and willing to be.
If you feel that you don't fit, or you can't understand why you aren't like other people in your life because you are different, remember that you are you, and not anyone else; and that being yourself and accepting yourself for the person that you are is something to be immensely proud of.
Attempts to change your orientation are usually painful and pointless in the end.
When talking with heterosexual friends or family members, it's sometimes tough to help them understand this, because they have no frame of reference for your experience.
Try to encourage others to see your sexual orientation in the same way as they see your eye colour
- it is something you were born with and did not choose.
It is something that is simply a part of your being, and not something you can change.
Or want to or should! There isn't any need to change yourself
- being gay is just another way of simply existing, and there is nothing wrong with it at all.
Neither is there anything wrong with you for being gay.
Some people in the world believe that sexual orientation is a choice.
If you feel that you indeed made a choice, you should feel comfortable with that choice.
Everyone has their own battles and choices to make, and the norms of societies may not necessarily be normal for you. , If you can't accept your sexual orientation and feel comfortable and confident in your own skin, then other people find it harder to accept you fully.
It's your right to love; no one has the right to tell you otherwise.
Tell yourself: "I am a person with feelings and intellect and a life, just like everyone else.
I am unique and individual, and no one has the right to choose my life for me.
The fact that I am gay is just another facet of who I am, just as being creative, or optimistic, or having brown eyes is.
I may not be like many of my friends, but I choose to live my life authentically and happily.
It's my life, and I choose to be happy."
Most people who are gay are indistinguishable from those that aren't.
They share the same interests, goals and dreams for their lives.
Being a homosexual person does not necessarily make you any less masculine or feminine, and there is no need or pressure to conform to stereotypes that don't feel right to you
- because you are who you are.
You do not need to fit into the gay community just as much as you don't need to fit into the straight community.
These are arbitrary social constructs.
Are boys inherently about football and burping? No.
Society has told them that that's okay.
In 100 years, "gay" will be an entirely different concept.
Don't pressure yourself to fit in one way or another.
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