How to Be Obedient
Be respectful., Be attentive to your chores., Consider why your parents say no, instead of arguing., Express your disagreement in a polite manner., Be polite., Never rebel against your parents.
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Be respectful.
Part of being obedient is showing respect to your parents, honoring their ideas about what's best for you, and showing that you think they are worth listening to.
Make sure that you listen when they talk and respond when they ask you to respond.
Don’t ignore them in public.
When you are out with your parents you might feel a bit embarrassed by them, but pretending that you don't know them or that you aren't with them is rude in the extreme.
It also has the potential to hurt your parents.
They don't say that you embarrass them, so why think that way towards them? Don’t roll your eyes when they ask you to do something.
If you don't like what they are asking you, the polite way to respond is to ask them to present your feelings on why you don't want to do what they want you to.
Think of all the times when you were a child and you asked your parents to do something for you and they did it without complaining. -
Step 2: Be attentive to your chores.
Parents tend not to ask you to do a ton of chores.
In fact, they probably work a lot harder than you do.
Obedience means doing what you see needs to be done without your parents even asking you to.
Avoid making your parents ask you to do something more than once.
Everyone gets distracted occasionally, so you might not always remember to do a chore without being asked.
Try to avoid having this be a typical thing.
Do what you can to help out around the house without being specifically ordered.
For example: offer to babysit your younger sister so that your parents can have a night off.
Or find out when garbage day is and take the garbage out before your mom has to. , Parents can have all kinds of rules about what they think you should or shouldn't be doing.
You might not always like or agree with these rules, but an obedient child considers their parents' point of view instead of fighting about it.
Don’t give in to the knee-jerk reaction to argue with them or express your disappointment or displeasure.
If you really need to respond with an argument, make it a debate and not a dispute--try writing or emailing them a letter or message explaining your point of view, rather than shouting and being uncompassionate.
If they say no to you hanging out with a friend on a Thursday night, they might be concerned about you not completing your homework on time or that you'll be too tired in school the next day. , There are times when your parents might ask you to do something unreasonable, or place unreasonable restrictions on you.
In many cases calmly discussing why you feel their demands are unreasonable, or offering alternatives or a compromise, can go a long way towards getting you what you want without being disobedient.
Calmly explain your side of things.
Give facts and don’t rely only on feelings.
Obedience doesn’t mean that you don’t have a mind of your own and it certainly doesn’t mean that you will always need to agree with your parents.
But if you disagree and want to express your disagreements, you will have to do it politely but firmly. , Being polite to your parents is a sign of respect and obedience.
You also want to be polite to other people: strangers, family members, friends.
This way you'll be demonstrating how well your parents raised you.
Make sure that you ask permission to be excused at the dinner table.
Say “please” and “thank you” even for basic things.
Hold doors open for people, offer to help people with their groceries. , You can disagree with them, but if they give you a reasonable instruction and you go against them simply to infuriate or upset them, this is not only immoral, but completely sinful.
Think of the consequences before you decide to make a decision. -
Step 3: Consider why your parents say no
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Step 4: instead of arguing.
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Step 5: Express your disagreement in a polite manner.
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Step 6: Be polite.
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Step 7: Never rebel against your parents.
Detailed Guide
Part of being obedient is showing respect to your parents, honoring their ideas about what's best for you, and showing that you think they are worth listening to.
Make sure that you listen when they talk and respond when they ask you to respond.
Don’t ignore them in public.
When you are out with your parents you might feel a bit embarrassed by them, but pretending that you don't know them or that you aren't with them is rude in the extreme.
It also has the potential to hurt your parents.
They don't say that you embarrass them, so why think that way towards them? Don’t roll your eyes when they ask you to do something.
If you don't like what they are asking you, the polite way to respond is to ask them to present your feelings on why you don't want to do what they want you to.
Think of all the times when you were a child and you asked your parents to do something for you and they did it without complaining.
Parents tend not to ask you to do a ton of chores.
In fact, they probably work a lot harder than you do.
Obedience means doing what you see needs to be done without your parents even asking you to.
Avoid making your parents ask you to do something more than once.
Everyone gets distracted occasionally, so you might not always remember to do a chore without being asked.
Try to avoid having this be a typical thing.
Do what you can to help out around the house without being specifically ordered.
For example: offer to babysit your younger sister so that your parents can have a night off.
Or find out when garbage day is and take the garbage out before your mom has to. , Parents can have all kinds of rules about what they think you should or shouldn't be doing.
You might not always like or agree with these rules, but an obedient child considers their parents' point of view instead of fighting about it.
Don’t give in to the knee-jerk reaction to argue with them or express your disappointment or displeasure.
If you really need to respond with an argument, make it a debate and not a dispute--try writing or emailing them a letter or message explaining your point of view, rather than shouting and being uncompassionate.
If they say no to you hanging out with a friend on a Thursday night, they might be concerned about you not completing your homework on time or that you'll be too tired in school the next day. , There are times when your parents might ask you to do something unreasonable, or place unreasonable restrictions on you.
In many cases calmly discussing why you feel their demands are unreasonable, or offering alternatives or a compromise, can go a long way towards getting you what you want without being disobedient.
Calmly explain your side of things.
Give facts and don’t rely only on feelings.
Obedience doesn’t mean that you don’t have a mind of your own and it certainly doesn’t mean that you will always need to agree with your parents.
But if you disagree and want to express your disagreements, you will have to do it politely but firmly. , Being polite to your parents is a sign of respect and obedience.
You also want to be polite to other people: strangers, family members, friends.
This way you'll be demonstrating how well your parents raised you.
Make sure that you ask permission to be excused at the dinner table.
Say “please” and “thank you” even for basic things.
Hold doors open for people, offer to help people with their groceries. , You can disagree with them, but if they give you a reasonable instruction and you go against them simply to infuriate or upset them, this is not only immoral, but completely sinful.
Think of the consequences before you decide to make a decision.
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