How to Deal With Hostile Girls

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Ooze confidence.

   No matter how intimidated you may feel on the inside, do your best to exude confidence on the outside.
   
   Standing up straight and maintaining eye contact will send the signal that you’re not a doormat.
   
   Mean girls single out targets they deem weak, but often stay away from confident girls.
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   Step 2: When possible

   Mean girls tend to shy away from packs, instead focusing their attention on solo prey. , If you’re in a class or after-school activity with a mean girl, compliment what she’s wearing or nonchalantly offer help with a math problem.
   
   If you can get one mean girl on your good side, the rest may fall in line.
   
   Ask a parent or older sibling for advice.
   
   Almost everyone has had at least one experience with bullies. , Mean girls thrive on reactions, so if you’re not making any headway, go into “ignore mode” and pretend you’re immune to everything they say or do.
   
   This will probably only work a few times, though.
   
   If the mean girls are really determined, ignoring them is not a long-term solution. , Calmly talk to an influential girl one-on-one, and ask her an up-front question like, “Did I do something that made you mad?” Use “I” statements rather than “you” ones.
   
   A mean girl can easily deny anything you say about her, but she’ll have a harder time arguing against your personal feelings.
   
   Before your conversation, rehearse your replies, imagining how you’ll firmly, but politely, stand your ground and stay confident no matter what. , Though it may not seem like it, popular kids don’t actually run the school.
   
   Those who do run it can help put any mean girls in their place.
   
   Try to feel pity for the mean girls.
   
   Insecure people are insecure and mean for a reason, usually not a good one, and there is probably something in their life causing them to be less-than-kind to others.
   
   Meanness makes people look and act ugly, and you can see a side of them that is very ugly.
   
   That in itself is a reassuring fact which you can use to your advantage to bolster your sense of well-being, knowing you're not falling for the same behavior.
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   Step 3: travel in a group of friends.

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   Step 4: Be nice and stay nice.

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   Step 5: Ignore them.

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   Step 6: Confront mean girls using the divide-and-conquer approach.

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   Step 7: If the mean girls are relentless

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   Step 8: causing you to become depressed or anxious

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   Step 9: or threatening to get physical

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    Step 10: involve your parents and the school faculty.

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