How to Deal With People Who Ignore You
Reflect on your recent actions., Get her to talk., Be nice., Pick a time to talk., Ask her why she's ignoring you., Explain your feelings., Don't push the topic., Don't be loud and scream., Use a third party., Don't take it personally.Most people...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Reflect on your recent actions.
This can be a challenge.
People often don't want to admit they did something wrong, or even notice that they've done something to offend someone.
Plan for an apology if you realize you've done something wrong.
Even if this person should have given you some type of courtesy, it is always better to take the upper road.
Practice different meditating techniques if it is hard for you to reflect. -
Step 2: Get her to talk.
Invite her into a conversation.
If she is trying to ignore you and you invite her into a public conversation, she might feel obliged to participate.
Not many people want to be revealed in public as ignoring someone. , If she sees you making an effort, she may speak to you again.
Acting rudely towards her will only create a larger, convoluted feud. , Plan on a time where you know that both of you are free.
If you pick an inopportune time, she could get more frustrated. , Sometimes people don't even realize they are ignoring someone.
Life can get overwhelming.
Being upfront and direct to this person should give you some information.
Don't be overly rude when confronting her. , This could be hard for some of you, but to open yourself up to this person could solve everything.
Exposing your feelings is a vulnerable process and could potentially hurt you.
Reveal yourself, but don't tell her everything. , Some people just need time away from you.
It can be helpful to avoid an argument and instead have a relaxed conversation. , Creating a tense confrontation will only lead to a longer period of turmoil with her. , Try to convey your message through somebody else.
Sometimes you just can't get through to the person ignoring you.
In some situations, it helps to have an outside party help resolve the issue.
Choose a person who is friends with both of you, but stays neutral.
You could also use a friendly acquaintance to help settle things if they are willing. , Take the power out of their rudeness, by not showing that it's affecting you.Make it their problem, not yours. , Think of him as a metaphorical wall that isn't necessarily in your way, but it's there. , If he doesn't want to associate with you for any number of reasons, then don't associate with him.
By ignoring him, he might take notice of your actions.
This is also a good way of keeping your cool.
Even if it is tearing you up inside, this can be an effective solution over time. , Some people simply need space from their friends.
It might not seem justified, but a lot of people will ignore you if they feel like it.
It can be the most painful and frustrating seat to be in, but just give it time. , You can't always change someone's mood to being polite if they want to be rude.Sometimes it's the best option to let him figure out what he needs to figure out on his own. , Try to spend time developing three lists: your strengths, your achievements, and something you admire about yourself.You might want to get a trusted family member to help you with this.
Keep this list in a safe place, and read it when you're feeling down. , Make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Pay particular attention to your hairstyle, your nail length, and your teeth., You'll be surprised how much of your mental health can strengthen from a clean living situation.
Focus on your room itself.
You could even ask someone to help you rearrange the furniture in your room., Get involved with an activity like: painting, music, poetry, or dance.Engaging yourself with artistic activities will improve your self-expression and strengthen your sense of mastery.
This will translate to more positive interactions with others., Participating in a volunteer organization within your community can be a very positive experience.
Making a difference builds your positive opinion of yourself., A lot of insecurities about other people arise from our self-esteem.
Try to separate your feelings from the reality of the situation.
This won't be easy because we're typically emotional beings, but try to see the circumstance from an unbiased opinion.
You could try different writing exercises to help your ideas flow. , If you are having a hard time being ignored there are people who can help.
Therapists or school guidance councilors advise people in your position all the time.
You may want to try a school guidance councilor first because they won't cost you anything. , The friends you had before you started being ignored are probably still your friends.
If things feel awkward because you've been more involved with other friends, then just be honest with them.
Do an activity that you both use to enjoy. , Share your fears, flaws, and insecurities.Being vulnerable is a difficult feeling to experience with someone, but it can create a close bond between people.
You could even go back and forth telling each other difficult things from your past. , The more avenues you have for communication, the better.It can be difficult in today's world to stay on top of all the ways we communicate.
Keep a regular scan of your social media sites and your phone for your friends. , It is okay to call your friend just to call your friend.
Try asking for serious advice or simply share something meaningful that happened to you recently., If your friend is going through something, then you should make time for that person.
No one likes a one-sided friendship.
If you have plans, then try to work around them or let your prior obligations know that something important has come up. -
Step 3: Be nice.
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Step 4: Pick a time to talk.
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Step 5: Ask her why she's ignoring you.
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Step 6: Explain your feelings.
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Step 7: Don't push the topic.
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Step 8: Don't be loud and scream.
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Step 9: Use a third party.
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Step 10: Don't take it personally.Most people come across someone who ignores them.
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Step 11: Focus on the road
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Step 12: not the wall.It's not always the easiest thing to do
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Step 13: but if you spend time working on your personal goals
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Step 14: this person's opinions and actions towards you won't matter.
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Step 15: Ignore him back.
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Step 16: Give him space.
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Step 17: Don't force change.
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Step 18: Make a set of lists.
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Step 19: Maintain your hygiene.
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Step 20: Clean your living space.
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Step 21: Start a hobby.
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Step 22: Make a contribution.
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Step 23: Recognize your creations.
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Step 24: Seek professional help.
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Step 25: Hold on to the friends you have.
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Step 26: Reveal yourself.
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Step 27: Keep multiple lines of communication open.
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Step 28: Make your contact worthwhile.
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Step 29: Make yourself available.
Detailed Guide
This can be a challenge.
People often don't want to admit they did something wrong, or even notice that they've done something to offend someone.
Plan for an apology if you realize you've done something wrong.
Even if this person should have given you some type of courtesy, it is always better to take the upper road.
Practice different meditating techniques if it is hard for you to reflect.
Invite her into a conversation.
If she is trying to ignore you and you invite her into a public conversation, she might feel obliged to participate.
Not many people want to be revealed in public as ignoring someone. , If she sees you making an effort, she may speak to you again.
Acting rudely towards her will only create a larger, convoluted feud. , Plan on a time where you know that both of you are free.
If you pick an inopportune time, she could get more frustrated. , Sometimes people don't even realize they are ignoring someone.
Life can get overwhelming.
Being upfront and direct to this person should give you some information.
Don't be overly rude when confronting her. , This could be hard for some of you, but to open yourself up to this person could solve everything.
Exposing your feelings is a vulnerable process and could potentially hurt you.
Reveal yourself, but don't tell her everything. , Some people just need time away from you.
It can be helpful to avoid an argument and instead have a relaxed conversation. , Creating a tense confrontation will only lead to a longer period of turmoil with her. , Try to convey your message through somebody else.
Sometimes you just can't get through to the person ignoring you.
In some situations, it helps to have an outside party help resolve the issue.
Choose a person who is friends with both of you, but stays neutral.
You could also use a friendly acquaintance to help settle things if they are willing. , Take the power out of their rudeness, by not showing that it's affecting you.Make it their problem, not yours. , Think of him as a metaphorical wall that isn't necessarily in your way, but it's there. , If he doesn't want to associate with you for any number of reasons, then don't associate with him.
By ignoring him, he might take notice of your actions.
This is also a good way of keeping your cool.
Even if it is tearing you up inside, this can be an effective solution over time. , Some people simply need space from their friends.
It might not seem justified, but a lot of people will ignore you if they feel like it.
It can be the most painful and frustrating seat to be in, but just give it time. , You can't always change someone's mood to being polite if they want to be rude.Sometimes it's the best option to let him figure out what he needs to figure out on his own. , Try to spend time developing three lists: your strengths, your achievements, and something you admire about yourself.You might want to get a trusted family member to help you with this.
Keep this list in a safe place, and read it when you're feeling down. , Make sure you are taking care of yourself.
Pay particular attention to your hairstyle, your nail length, and your teeth., You'll be surprised how much of your mental health can strengthen from a clean living situation.
Focus on your room itself.
You could even ask someone to help you rearrange the furniture in your room., Get involved with an activity like: painting, music, poetry, or dance.Engaging yourself with artistic activities will improve your self-expression and strengthen your sense of mastery.
This will translate to more positive interactions with others., Participating in a volunteer organization within your community can be a very positive experience.
Making a difference builds your positive opinion of yourself., A lot of insecurities about other people arise from our self-esteem.
Try to separate your feelings from the reality of the situation.
This won't be easy because we're typically emotional beings, but try to see the circumstance from an unbiased opinion.
You could try different writing exercises to help your ideas flow. , If you are having a hard time being ignored there are people who can help.
Therapists or school guidance councilors advise people in your position all the time.
You may want to try a school guidance councilor first because they won't cost you anything. , The friends you had before you started being ignored are probably still your friends.
If things feel awkward because you've been more involved with other friends, then just be honest with them.
Do an activity that you both use to enjoy. , Share your fears, flaws, and insecurities.Being vulnerable is a difficult feeling to experience with someone, but it can create a close bond between people.
You could even go back and forth telling each other difficult things from your past. , The more avenues you have for communication, the better.It can be difficult in today's world to stay on top of all the ways we communicate.
Keep a regular scan of your social media sites and your phone for your friends. , It is okay to call your friend just to call your friend.
Try asking for serious advice or simply share something meaningful that happened to you recently., If your friend is going through something, then you should make time for that person.
No one likes a one-sided friendship.
If you have plans, then try to work around them or let your prior obligations know that something important has come up.
About the Author
Jacqueline Reed
With a background in lifestyle and practical guides, Jacqueline Reed brings 8 years of hands-on experience to every article. Jacqueline believes in making complex topics accessible to everyone.
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