How to Know How Often to Instant Message Someone Without Being Clingy

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: If you are starting the conversation

   Also, unless you need to tell or remind them something, do not IM them in the same day just for conversation.
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   Step 2: do not talk to them as soon as they are online

   But don't take too long, or they'll think you're done with the conversation already, which doesn't make you seem "clingy"
   
   but it does make you rude. , Getting excited will make you jump ahead and respond too quickly.
   
   Always take time to read their message carefully, this gives you time enough for them to know you're not cut out of civilization and dying to talk to somebody. , Make the conversation personal, different people will expect different lengths, so checking to see how long it takes them to respond is a good idea.
   
   Although, if they are clingy, don't join in, remember the rules, but you can wait the minimum. ,
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   Step 3: wait at least 10-15 seconds.

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   Step 4: For the first response

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   Step 5: take all the time you need

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   Step 6: and make it seem like your doing something else if you're not already.

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   Step 7: Remain cool.

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   Step 8: See how long until they respond.

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   Step 9: Carry on more than one conversation if possible

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    Step 10: it will help slow down on the quickness of your responses as well.

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