How to Seduce a Young Adult

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Find the right partner.

   There are no easy ways to distinguish between likely and unlikely prospects (see "Tips" below), so avoid making assumptions based on first impressions.
   
   Seemingly inaccessible 18-to-21-year olds are often very interested in exploring an older partner, because their experiences with younger partners has been unsatisfying.
   
   Likewise, seemingly aroused and flirtatious teens might actually bear deeper moral perspectives that will ultimately stifle the relationship.
   
   Trust your instincts and proceed with calm confidence.
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   Step 2: Treat the object of your affection as though s/he were your own age.

   Young adults are accustomed to being condescended to
   - so much so, in fact, that being treated with respect and camaraderie will often impress them, and bring them to their full potential as adult communicators.
   
   Catch your love interest by surprise with admiration and acknowledgement, make him/her feel strong and important.
   
   The use of gifts can also be used to make him/her feel special and loved (e.g. flowers, stuffed toys, tickets to concerts, phone credit, gift cards etc) , Don't appear fixated or pay too much attention.
   
   Don't try to isolate her/him from her surroundings or peers
   - this is a common mistake in seduction of any kind.
   
   Your goal is to empower, not disempower. , In that case, be a resource for maturity.
   
   Be a resource for honesty, self-expression, and clarity of intention.
   
   Let the teen empower you as well, showing your flaws.
   
   Be willing to give up authority.
   
   If you can't learn from this person, why are you wasting your time? Form a respectful, mutually-empowering friendship before moving forward. , Seem indifferent to the fear, being neither pushy nor stand-off-ish.
   
   Give space, but don't react overtly.
   
   People who are afraid deserve space. , You are in a position to help them learn, expand their horizons and introduce them to experiences that may not be able to encounter with the help of someone with a little more maturity (and maybe money).
   
   Don't force them to do anything they have no interest at all in. , Don't be afraid to something your peers might think you are too old for., If s/he is afraid of her peers' or parents' judgment, act as though you understand.
   
   Remember, sexual desire is nothing to be ashamed of.
   
   But the best relationships are formed when sexual desire is expressed between people who are not afraid.
   
   You do NOT want to make a move on a fearful person. ,, Does s/he amaze you? (If not, maybe you're in the wrong relationship.) How did s/he get to be so unique? Ask that question to yourself first, and then show that his or her uniqueness matters, by exploring it further.
   
   Be appreciative (but don't overdo it). , If s/he starts shortening your meetings, or resisting your meetings habitually, then move on.
   
   Resistance might not be expressed too well verbally, but don't push your love interest into an argument. ,, Refer to your love object as a man or woman.
   
   If your love object seems to want abundant physicality, then your move should be physical
   - a stroke of the hair or face, a clasp of hands. , Teens will want to explore this...if not in the moment, then soon.
   
   Don't be discouraged...showing that you're not discouraged (but still sensitive to the teen's needs for space and privacy) makes the relationship an inevitable object of curiosity.
   
   Patience prevails.
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   Step 3: Be fun

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   Step 4: and easy to talk to like any normal human being trying to make friends.

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   Step 5: Once the 18-to-21-year-old recognizes your unusual respect and admiration

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   Step 6: his/her thought process will wander down one of several unfamiliar paths: S/he may see you as a means of much longed-for escape from a comparatively juvenile world.

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   Step 7: Alternatively

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   Step 8: the teen may also find your respect frightening.

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   Step 9: Suggest activities that the two of you can do together

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    Step 10: that emphasize your shared traits and experiences.

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    Step 11: Let them share their interests with you.

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    Step 12: After a friendship grows

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    Step 13: your love interest may have difficulty spending one-on-one time with you.

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    Step 14: Be patient with the moral pressures that weigh on your love interest...show your disappointment but respect their moral concerns.

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    Step 15: Once you are spending time alone together

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    Step 16: be attuned to your love interest.

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    Step 17: At some point in the relationship

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    Step 18: your love-interest will either pull closer or pull away.

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    Step 19: If s/he starts something physical

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    Step 20: like a tickle-fight

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    Step 21: a massage

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    Step 22: or even just prolonged eye contact

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    Step 23: then make a small move.

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    Step 24: When you make your move

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    Step 25: treat your teen like an adult.

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    Step 26: If s/he still seems physically uncertain

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    Step 27: then stick to verbal compliments

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    Step 28: telling him/her how you feel

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    Step 29: and start conversations about what the feelings mean.

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