How to Stop Temper Tantrums
Use short phrases when speaking to your youngster if he is upset., Try to speak in an even, passionate tone of voice when disciplining., Repeat your desires again and again., Try acknowledging your child’s feelings., Understand the basic reasons why...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Use short phrases when speaking to your youngster if he is upset.
It is easier for a child to hear and comprehend 2 or 3 words spoken at a time than an entire sentence.
A simple command such as “Stop kicking that” will be comprehended quicker than a sentence stating ‘I want you to stop kicking that before you break it”.
If your child understands what you expect from him, he is less likely to throw a temper tantrum out of frustration.
Sometimes a child will respond better if you tell them what you want them to do instead of reprimanding them by telling them not to do something.
An example would be to tell a child to "walk" instead of saying "don't run". -
Step 2: Try to speak in an even
Children generally will not respond any better to an angry impatient tone of voice than they will to a soft, calm voice.
Harsh tones may distress the child even further and lead to the development of a temper tantrum. , Often, children are so caught up in themselves that they are not immediately aware of what is being said to them.
If this is the case, repetition will work to get your point across and potentially prevent a temper tantrum. , Conveying to the child that you understand his emotions allows him to feel acknowledged.
He will be more likely to respond in a positive manner and listen further when you tell him that you understand what he is upset about before proceeding to tell him why he can not have what he wants.
This type of communication can help prevent temper tantrums. , Generally, a child is more apt to have a meltdown if he is feeling out of sorts in one way or another.
Hunger and fatigue can cause children to become cranky.
Frustration can send a child into an outburst.
Children have not yet learned how to control their emotions and will react by acting out the only way that they know how. , Often a child will use a tantrum to get the attention they are looking for.
They want to be heard and tantrums are a way they can assure to be heard.
This is especially true in toddlers just learning to speak.
They have a lot to say but are unable to express themselves in a way others can understand.
Understanding your child’s emotions and handling them accordingly can help prevent him throwing a temper tantrum out of frustration. , Children naturally want to emulate the world around them.
Unfortunately, the things they often wish to do are beyond their capability.
Climbing the stairs or swimming on their own are perfect examples.
They struggle for the independence to do these things unaware of the dangers that accompany these tasks.
Power struggles can ensue in the form of temper tantrums.
Offering your child some independence when appropriate can help prevent tantrums. , Some children naturally have a calm, relaxed disposition.
Others are higher strung, moody and hyperactive.
Children that appear more intense are generally more apt to have outbursts.
If you know that you have a child who is more likely to have temper tantrums, you can take steps to prevent them. , If your child becomes agitated when you stop an activity for bath time or dinner, he may be more prone to outbursts.
Understanding this can help you develop a more effective way to transition from one activity to another, which can help prevent tantrums. , If you see that your child is possessive of his belongings or has some difficulty sharing, you can work on his social skills and try to incorporate sharing into his playtime routine.
Working on issues that can cause tantrums can help you decrease their occurrence. ,, Sometimes we can’t alter everything in our lives to suit our children’s needs.
Knowing a tantrum may ensue if you keep your toddler out way past his bedtime places you in a position where you are taking your chances. ,, Children are easily distracted so use it to your advantage the moment you suspect that a temper tantrum may be on the horizon. ,, Children will often forget what is upsetting them quickly if you can get them to laugh before a temper tantrum begins. , The only message you send is that physical punishment is an acceptable way to handle anger.
You are chastising your child for being unable to control his emotions by being unable to control yours.
Chances are all that you will accomplish is more negative behavior and more temper tantrums. , All the child will learn from this behavior is that throwing a tantrum will get him what they want.
The next time he may tantrum even harder just to get his way. , All this will do is set the stage for future tantrums when the child wants a treat or new toy. , Place your child in a safe place away from others.
If you must restrain him physically, hold him firmly until he has calmed down enough to let him go.
Some children will kick and hit and struggle to get free from the restraint.
Protect yourself as best as possible and remain determined and calm. , Sometimes help from a qualified professional may be the last resort. -
Step 3: passionate tone of voice when disciplining.
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Step 4: Repeat your desires again and again.
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Step 5: Try acknowledging your child’s feelings.
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Step 6: Understand the basic reasons why temper tantrums occur.
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Step 7: Take into consideration a child’s emotions and how they can lead to the development of a temper tantrum if not addressed properly.
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Step 8: Consider your child’s desire for independence.
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Step 9: Learn about your child’s specific personality traits.
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Step 10: Consider how well your child reacts to interruptions or change.
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Step 11: Take notice of how well your child shares with other children.
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Step 12: Learn what things trigger a tantrum in your child and try to avoid them whenever possible.
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Step 13: Know your child’s limits and avoid pushing your luck.
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Step 14: Place items that you know will invoke a tantrum out of your child’s sight whenever possible.
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Step 15: Use distraction as a way to prevent a tantrum.
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Step 16: Try replacing the object that is may cause a temper tantrum with a more suitable object whenever possible.
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Step 17: Attempt to incorporate humor into a tense or stressful situation.
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Step 18: Avoid using spankings to get your point across.
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Step 19: Refrain from allowing your child to have what he wants just to avoid a temper tantrum.
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Step 20: Steer clear of bribing a child with a treat or a reward as a way to prevent a tantrum.
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Step 21: Always step in and remove a child from harming himself or others if an outburst does occur.
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Step 22: If all attempts to prevent temper tantrums seem to be failing
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Step 23: you may want to speak with a professional about the situation.
Detailed Guide
It is easier for a child to hear and comprehend 2 or 3 words spoken at a time than an entire sentence.
A simple command such as “Stop kicking that” will be comprehended quicker than a sentence stating ‘I want you to stop kicking that before you break it”.
If your child understands what you expect from him, he is less likely to throw a temper tantrum out of frustration.
Sometimes a child will respond better if you tell them what you want them to do instead of reprimanding them by telling them not to do something.
An example would be to tell a child to "walk" instead of saying "don't run".
Children generally will not respond any better to an angry impatient tone of voice than they will to a soft, calm voice.
Harsh tones may distress the child even further and lead to the development of a temper tantrum. , Often, children are so caught up in themselves that they are not immediately aware of what is being said to them.
If this is the case, repetition will work to get your point across and potentially prevent a temper tantrum. , Conveying to the child that you understand his emotions allows him to feel acknowledged.
He will be more likely to respond in a positive manner and listen further when you tell him that you understand what he is upset about before proceeding to tell him why he can not have what he wants.
This type of communication can help prevent temper tantrums. , Generally, a child is more apt to have a meltdown if he is feeling out of sorts in one way or another.
Hunger and fatigue can cause children to become cranky.
Frustration can send a child into an outburst.
Children have not yet learned how to control their emotions and will react by acting out the only way that they know how. , Often a child will use a tantrum to get the attention they are looking for.
They want to be heard and tantrums are a way they can assure to be heard.
This is especially true in toddlers just learning to speak.
They have a lot to say but are unable to express themselves in a way others can understand.
Understanding your child’s emotions and handling them accordingly can help prevent him throwing a temper tantrum out of frustration. , Children naturally want to emulate the world around them.
Unfortunately, the things they often wish to do are beyond their capability.
Climbing the stairs or swimming on their own are perfect examples.
They struggle for the independence to do these things unaware of the dangers that accompany these tasks.
Power struggles can ensue in the form of temper tantrums.
Offering your child some independence when appropriate can help prevent tantrums. , Some children naturally have a calm, relaxed disposition.
Others are higher strung, moody and hyperactive.
Children that appear more intense are generally more apt to have outbursts.
If you know that you have a child who is more likely to have temper tantrums, you can take steps to prevent them. , If your child becomes agitated when you stop an activity for bath time or dinner, he may be more prone to outbursts.
Understanding this can help you develop a more effective way to transition from one activity to another, which can help prevent tantrums. , If you see that your child is possessive of his belongings or has some difficulty sharing, you can work on his social skills and try to incorporate sharing into his playtime routine.
Working on issues that can cause tantrums can help you decrease their occurrence. ,, Sometimes we can’t alter everything in our lives to suit our children’s needs.
Knowing a tantrum may ensue if you keep your toddler out way past his bedtime places you in a position where you are taking your chances. ,, Children are easily distracted so use it to your advantage the moment you suspect that a temper tantrum may be on the horizon. ,, Children will often forget what is upsetting them quickly if you can get them to laugh before a temper tantrum begins. , The only message you send is that physical punishment is an acceptable way to handle anger.
You are chastising your child for being unable to control his emotions by being unable to control yours.
Chances are all that you will accomplish is more negative behavior and more temper tantrums. , All the child will learn from this behavior is that throwing a tantrum will get him what they want.
The next time he may tantrum even harder just to get his way. , All this will do is set the stage for future tantrums when the child wants a treat or new toy. , Place your child in a safe place away from others.
If you must restrain him physically, hold him firmly until he has calmed down enough to let him go.
Some children will kick and hit and struggle to get free from the restraint.
Protect yourself as best as possible and remain determined and calm. , Sometimes help from a qualified professional may be the last resort.
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