How to Tell a Girl You Like Her Without Getting Rejected

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Test the waters with compliments and kindness.

   You don't have to jump right into romantic mode.
   
   Test her reaction to compliments and "I like you" kind of behavior.
   
   If she smile, blushes, gets lightly embarrassed, or responds with similar words, she's probably picking up what you're putting down.
   
   Listen to her: "Hey, tell me about your day today?" Get her gifts and mementos: "I got you a little gift that reminded me of you." Go out of your way to see her, even for short periods" "I've got to run to your part of town later tonight
   -- want to grab a quick cup of coffee with me on my way?"
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   Step 2: Talk to her alone once you're ready to let her know how you feel.

   When you tell her how you feel, don't do it when there are a bunch of other people around.
   
   This can make her feel uncomfortable and trapped, leading to an answer that she doesn't really mean.
   
   Take her somewhere nice and quiet and make sure she feels relaxed before telling her how you feel. "Hey, I wanted to ask you something in private.
   
   You have a moment?" "Let's go for a walk, I have something I wanted to get off my chest." "Hey, ______, can I grab you for a second?"
   
   Let her know you enjoy her company, and that you've had a lot of fun together.
   
   Keep this quick so that you get to the point faster. "You're know you're incredibly amazing, right? Like, the bomb?" "I'm really happy we got to know each other this year." "You know I can tell you anything.
   
   You've been an incredible friend."
   
   This is the hard part, but if you take a deep breath, count to three, and let it out, you'll feel much better.
   
   As long as it comes from the heart, you should be proud of your courage. "I like you." "I just wanted you to know that I like you." "I can't keep pretending that I don't have feelings for you.
   
   You're too amazing not to have feelings for." "I love having you as my friend.
   
   But I'd like to make us more than friends."
   
   She may be completely taken aback by your feelings, and need time to process her own.
   
   Give her that time. "You don't have to feel the same way as I do, but I really needed to tell you that I like you a lot." "I don't want you to feel weird or pressured! I just wanted to let you know how I feel." "I know this seems like a lot at once.
   
   I've clearly had a lot more time to think about it than you.
   
   But I'm here for you if you want to talk about it more."
   
   Be ready with a specific time and day to date.
   
   If she agrees to something more, make it "official" with a nice night out together. "I'm really happy when I'm with you and I want the chance to make you as happy as you make me.
   
   Will you go out with me to dinner on Friday and give me that chance?" "I would be really honored if you would give me the chance to get to know you better.
   
   Would you be willing to come with me to the Art of Video Games exhibit this weekend?" "Hey, I have tickets to the ball game this weekend.
   
   I would really like it if you would come with me so that we could have some more time to talk, just the two of us."
   
   All of the gimmicks and lines from the movies don't really work in real life.
   
   Just be yourself and keep it simple
   -- it's all you really need to get your feelings out.
   
   Some things not to do or say include: "I love you." It is way too early for that, especially if this is the first she's ever heard of your crush. "I don't want to be friends if we can't be dating." These kind of ultimatums trap people and make them feel terrible.
   
   Not the most romantic maneuver. "I've been into you for months and months." Keep it casual as can be.
   
   You want her to feel welcomed and safe, not pressured all of a sudden. "I like you like bees and honey, like the wind over the sea and the blah blah blah...." Keep it simple and direct. , Become friends with a girl by working your way into her social circle.
   
   Join clubs that she's in or hang out at parties or gatherings where you know she'll be.
   
   Let her get to know your face, talk to her more and more often, and you'll be friends before you know it. , Know her likes and dislikes, her quirks and pet peeves.
   
   This sets you up for success; girls don't want to date someone that just likes them because they're pretty.
   
   They want someone who really "gets" them.
   
   Talk about things like religion, politics, where she grew up, her family, and other important topics.
   
   Talk about dumb stuff too! You should also let her know you! Strike up friendly conversations and let her do most of the talking, but take a turn yourself every now and again. , Support her in the things she likes to do.
   
   Learn about the activity and maybe even learn to enjoy it yourself.
   
   Even if you don't or can't, attend plays or performances that she does.
   
   She should feel like you get the things that make her happy in life.
   
   You should also let her see you enjoying the things that you love.
   
   Passion is contagious and very attractive. , Establish yourself as a good friend by being there for her when she's having a hard time, helping her with problems when you can, making her laugh when you can't, and keeping her life fun by always finding new things to enjoy together! Don't fear the friend zone: if you're really compatible it won't matter how long you've been friends; she'll be responsive to your feelings. , You need to create an environment of trust.
   
   Be faithful before you ever ask her out and never let her catch you flirting with or spending a ton of time with other girls.
   
   Tell her secrets and when she tells you hers, keep them.
   
   Never judge her or laugh at her for the things she tells you.
   
   She should feel like she can tell you anything. , If you want to begin to help her develop serious feelings for you, you two need to spend some time together where you can really focus on each other.
   
   Ask her to go with you to something you have to do, not as a date but just as friends.
   
   You can also ask her to come over to do something with you (watch a movie she's never seen, try out a video game, etc). , She should feel good when she's with you.
   
   Make her feel important and good about herself.
   
   Compliment her, never put her down, and always encourage her to reach for the things she wants.
   
   Let her know when you see her do something well, even if it's just something small like helping someone else. , One reason why many people are reluctant about dating is because they worry that in dating someone they'll lose the ability to really be themselves.
   
   They think they'll lose all their free time, their friends, or that people will see them differently.
   
   Set yourself apart by helping her see that she doesn't need to be afraid of that with you.
   
   Have your own things that you go out and do and help her find fun things to do on her own. , If she says no, it's not the end of the world.
   
   You'll feel sad but you will find someone else.
   
   You don't want to try to force feelings or a relationship between the two of you.
   
   You deserve someone that likes you as much as you like them.
   
   It's not your fault that she doesn't return your feelings and it's not her fault either: some people just aren't compatible.
   
   What you can do though is work on making sure that the next time you develop feelings for a girl, you'll be the best version of yourself that you can be.
   
   This is the best way to ensure that the right girl will return your feelings. , It's scary but you should try to tell her in person how you feel.
   
   Using a text, email, other friend, or other method just makes you seem childish and like you don't really care that much. , When we don't take care of our bodies, it tells other people that we don't think we're worth taking care of or liking at all.
   
   You're awesome and you should treat yourself like you are! Respect yourself and take care of your body.
   
   Wash regularly, wear deodorant, and wear clean clothes that fit and look good on your body. , No one will want to date someone who just does nothing, who is nothing.
   
   Show girls that you're a full, interesting person by getting yourself up off the couch and doing things.
   
   Do a sport, learn a skill, join some clubs, focus on schoolwork: do whatever makes you happy. , You want any girl that hears about you or gets to know you to know you as a good person.
   
   Work on your personality if you tend to be self-centered, always be kind to everyone around you, and maybe even do some volunteer work.
   
   These kinds of things attract the good kind of girl that you want to date. , If you don't have too much else going for you, you can always get a girl's interest by having some cool skills or talents.
   
   If you're not already good at something, take the opportunity to learn a new skill! This will help you with girls and be rewarding for you in the long run. , This might take some getting to know her or even secretly getting her friends in on your plans, but if she's already trying to get some other guy to date her, she might not be very receptive when you tell her how you feel.
   
   Even if she has feelings for another guy, you can still try.
   
   Just be ready for some sad days. , Not everyone is a seasoned pro at asking girls out.
   
   If you're scared to tell her because you don't know what to say: don't worry.
   
   It's not as hard as it seems. , Confidence is really important when dealing with someone you like.
   
   An attractive trait for just about anybody, it's a good skill to master if you want to get your girl. , If you want a girl to really develop strong feelings for you, it's often going to come down to how good your conversations are.
   
   Get good at starting and maintaining a conversation to make her want to have more of you in her life.
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   Step 3: Let her know

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   Step 4: briefly

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   Step 5: that you appreciate her friendship.

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   Step 6: Take a deep breath and tell her how you feel.

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   Step 7: Assure her that she doesn't need to make a decision if she needs time to think.

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   Step 8: Ask her out on a date.

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   Step 9: Avoid drama or big "romantic" gestures.

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    Step 10: Spend time together in groups.

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    Step 11: Get to really know her.

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    Step 12: Experience her passions and let her experience yours.

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    Step 13: Be a good friend.

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    Step 14: Create a bond of trust between you.

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    Step 15: Get quality one-on-one time.

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    Step 16: Let her know how amazing she is.

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    Step 17: Give her space.

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    Step 18: try again.

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    Step 19: Tell her face-to-face if you can.

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    Step 20: Take care of your body.

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    Step 21: Do things in life.

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    Step 22: Work to help others.

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    Step 23: Learn some cool skills.

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    Step 24: Make sure she's available.

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    Step 25: Learn how to ask her out.

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    Step 26: Learn to act confident.

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    Step 27: Learn how to have better conversations.

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