How to Date a Widow

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Familiarize yourself with the seven stages of grief

   Do not say "at least you have your memories".
   
   They are thinking, I didn't want memories, I wanted my husband/wife.
   
   I am moving on as best I can, please don't trivialize my husband or wife's death in such a way.
   
   There are comprehensive lists available regarding what not to say. ,, There is no specific timetable for grief, it is a process. ,,,,,,,,,,,). , People need time to live their lives and grow with their new situation. ,,
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   Step 2: as well as other people going through them.

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   Step 3: Do not try to interpret the other person's emotions

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   Step 4: just ask them what's going on.

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   Step 5: Do familiarize yourself with what to say and what not to say.

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   Step 6: Accept the facts (maybe they are not understanding the emotional stage or psychological hardships at any given time).

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   Step 7: Encourage that person to wait one year before making any big life changing decisions (this is a safety measure recommended by many grief counselors).

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   Step 8: Be patient

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   Step 9: loving and kind in all that you do.

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    Step 10: Allow your partner to share his/her feelings with you.

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    Step 11: If your new partner talks about the late-spouse often

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    Step 12: just realize that it is part of grieving and they loved that person deeply and still do.

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    Step 13: Accept and show interest in your partners emotions

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    Step 14: Don't feel like you have to walk on eggshells about the deceased

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    Step 15: Ask questions about the late-spouse

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    Step 16: show interest

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    Step 17: show that you care.

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    Step 18: If there are children involved at some point when things are looking serious... let the children know your intention and non-intentions.

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    Step 19: Be patient

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    Step 20: Take one day at a time

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    Step 21: Understand that loss and grief change a person forever

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    Step 22: Observe long-term progress (Is the person gradually improving from the debilitating injury of grief and loss?

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    Step 23: Encourage a small amount of counseling.

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    Step 24: Assure your partner that you accept their past.

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    Step 25: Embrace the dynamics of your date starting his/her life anew and afresh.

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