How to Resolve a Fallout With Your Friend
Think carefully about the argument., Decide how major the argument was., If it's your fault, apologize - if you apologize nicely and they are a true friend they should accept it., If an argument was your fault and they didn't accept your apology...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Think carefully about the argument.
Think how it started, think how it ended up as a fall-out.
Most of all, decide whether it was your fault or not
- if it was, then you'll need to apologize; but if you're positive it is your friend's fault, never apologize.
You can't let someone walk all over you, especially not a friend. , If it's a 'minor' fight, you will make up (unless you argue all the time), but if it's a 'major' argument, you should consider whether you should completely leave your friend.
A minor fight would be arguing about who gets the last sweet or something silly like that, and a major one would be them spreading one of your big secrets or an argument where violence is used. , They might not accept it first time though.
If you are certain that it's their fault, tell them that if they apologize you will accept it and be their friend again, and that you will apologize for any not nice thing you said. , Make sure your apology is meaningful and sincere, rather than an angry murmur of 'Sorry'.
If it wasn't your fault and they refuse to apologize, wait until they do. ,, If it was their fault and they apologize, mostly you should apologize too; you probably said something mean to them in response to what they said. , Remember that this is your friend and you must try not to say anything mean or lose your temper with them. , Make sure you let that person have their turn telling how they feel too. -
Step 2: Decide how major the argument was.
Hang out with your other friends.
Show them that you are a strong person and even though you want to resolve the issue and be friends again, you can still live your life as though they weren't in it, because one day they will come back regretting what they did. -
Step 3: If it's your fault
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Step 4: apologize - if you apologize nicely and they are a true friend they should accept it.
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Step 5: If an argument was your fault and they didn't accept your apology
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Step 6: keep trying.
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Step 7: In the meantime
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Step 8: start hanging around with some other friends - but when (if) you and your friend make friends again
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Step 9: don't just drop the person or people you were hanging out with.
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Step 10: When all the apologies are said
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Step 11: hug and make up - there's no point leaving tension between the two of you.
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Step 12: Make a promise to try not to argue as much - arguments between close friends cannot be avoided at most times
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Step 13: but they can be made not as worse and/or not as bad.
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Step 14: If you really and truly believe that the argument was their fault and it wasn't yours
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Step 15: but they think it is your fault for making it a big deal then try to sit down and have a conversation about your feelings with that person.
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Step 16: If they seem like they don't want anything to do with you
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Step 17: make sure you put it out there that you can survive
Detailed Guide
Think how it started, think how it ended up as a fall-out.
Most of all, decide whether it was your fault or not
- if it was, then you'll need to apologize; but if you're positive it is your friend's fault, never apologize.
You can't let someone walk all over you, especially not a friend. , If it's a 'minor' fight, you will make up (unless you argue all the time), but if it's a 'major' argument, you should consider whether you should completely leave your friend.
A minor fight would be arguing about who gets the last sweet or something silly like that, and a major one would be them spreading one of your big secrets or an argument where violence is used. , They might not accept it first time though.
If you are certain that it's their fault, tell them that if they apologize you will accept it and be their friend again, and that you will apologize for any not nice thing you said. , Make sure your apology is meaningful and sincere, rather than an angry murmur of 'Sorry'.
If it wasn't your fault and they refuse to apologize, wait until they do. ,, If it was their fault and they apologize, mostly you should apologize too; you probably said something mean to them in response to what they said. , Remember that this is your friend and you must try not to say anything mean or lose your temper with them. , Make sure you let that person have their turn telling how they feel too.
Hang out with your other friends.
Show them that you are a strong person and even though you want to resolve the issue and be friends again, you can still live your life as though they weren't in it, because one day they will come back regretting what they did.
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