How to Tolerate an Ex for the Sake of Mutual Friends
Make sure it's been at least a couple of months before deciding to become friends., Discard anything that reminds you of the relationship., Make sure you're not Facebook stalking them., Try to make your run-ins as least awkward as possible., Make...
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Make sure it's been at least a couple of months before deciding to become friends.
This will help make sure you're probably over him or her. -
Step 2: Discard anything that reminds you of the relationship.
Either throw it out, or pack it in a box and store it away. , It's already unhealthy enough as it is to Facebook or Instagram or whatever you use to stalk them, before or during a relationship.
Yes, many people do this but tracking their moves still proves you're not over them, no matter how much you tell yourself you're not.
It's like taking a step back instead of forward. , Avoid awkward handshakes or hugs.
Depending on how the relationship ended, try to be the bigger person. , If you don't they will suspect that you're trying to avoid a conversation of some type. , Your ex is still a person and it's still considered rude to check your phone. , That is the number one thing to do.
Show them you're the bigger person.
You're happy without them.
You're not sobbing your eyes out (regardless of the fact that you might have been doing that for months) and eating through hundreds of ice cream tubs. , Confidence is key.
Make a conversation.
Engage with them, just as if you're making a new friend even though you've probably kissed them and slept with them. , Honestly, try to avoid doing it most of the time unless you guys are in a really good place.
Even if you guys are on a good level, still try not to text them a lot.
It will drag you right back into the relationship. , Basically, it's to forget the former intimate relationship and to be basic friends and nothing else.
Don't get all awkward when someone brings them up in a conversation. , You might get a little obsessed. -
Step 3: Make sure you're not Facebook stalking them.
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Step 4: Try to make your run-ins as least awkward as possible.
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Step 5: Make sure to make eye contact.
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Step 6: Don't look at your phone all the time.
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Step 7: Smile.
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Step 8: Be confident.
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Step 9: Don't call or text them 24/7.
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Step 10: Understand what the whole point of becoming friends after a relationship is about.
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Step 11: Make yourself some boundaries about talking about them too often or your friends talking about them.
Detailed Guide
This will help make sure you're probably over him or her.
Either throw it out, or pack it in a box and store it away. , It's already unhealthy enough as it is to Facebook or Instagram or whatever you use to stalk them, before or during a relationship.
Yes, many people do this but tracking their moves still proves you're not over them, no matter how much you tell yourself you're not.
It's like taking a step back instead of forward. , Avoid awkward handshakes or hugs.
Depending on how the relationship ended, try to be the bigger person. , If you don't they will suspect that you're trying to avoid a conversation of some type. , Your ex is still a person and it's still considered rude to check your phone. , That is the number one thing to do.
Show them you're the bigger person.
You're happy without them.
You're not sobbing your eyes out (regardless of the fact that you might have been doing that for months) and eating through hundreds of ice cream tubs. , Confidence is key.
Make a conversation.
Engage with them, just as if you're making a new friend even though you've probably kissed them and slept with them. , Honestly, try to avoid doing it most of the time unless you guys are in a really good place.
Even if you guys are on a good level, still try not to text them a lot.
It will drag you right back into the relationship. , Basically, it's to forget the former intimate relationship and to be basic friends and nothing else.
Don't get all awkward when someone brings them up in a conversation. , You might get a little obsessed.
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