How to Cope if Members Are Rude or Upset You on a Forum

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Think before you post your problem or topic on the forum.

   If it is a very personal problem it may be better solved by going to an advice center, or legal advice center if it is a legal problem.
   
   Not posting it on a forum.
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   Step 2: Bear in mind that the forum is public

   So if you do choose to post on a forum, if it is a personal problem you should choose a username that is different from your real name.
   
   But you may want to use a username that is different from your real name anyway. , This can get you a warning from the moderators and you could also be banned from the forum for this.
   
   This may seem unfair, but a lot of admins are not interested in who started the argument.
   
   As far as they are concerned, if two people are both fighting and making the forum unpleasant, then one person is as guilty as the other one involved in the argument.
   
   So if someone is rude to you, ignore them. , Just report that person to the admin or moderator.
   
   Many forums have a link you can click on, or means of contact for the forum admin that you can report that person to.
   
   This is a far better way of dealing with it that to be rude back to the member, even though they were rude to you. , It is no good getting so worked up and upset that you get caught up in the argument, and that you end up posting hateful comments back to the members who are winding you up.
   
   And if you do this, you can end up being banned from the forum by the admin or moderators. , Or you may have just got a nasty response from the members about what you posted on the forum.
   
   If this happens to you, DO NOT blow up at them by posting back swear words or hateful comments in order to get your own back at them.
   
   This will only make things worse and will also get you banned from the forum.
   
   Some forums will ban you permanently for this. , A moderator or admin can lock the thread or delete the thread.
   
   This can be very upsetting when you have spent time and hours writing your posts.
   
   Only to have your thread locked or deleted by a moderator.
   
   If this happens to you DO NOT start another thread about the same topic that was locked or deleted.
   
   As that could get you a warning from the admin or moderator.
   
   And it can also get you banned from the forum.
   
   REMEMBER it is their website and they can do what they want.
   
   So they can lock your thread or the thread you are posting on.
   
   And they can delete the thread and there is nothing you can do about it. , Is that forum right for you? Also think before you post.
   
   As everything you post will be public and read by everyone online.
   
   Is your post or topic right for the forum? Some forums will not allow some topics on their forum.
   
   So read the rules first.
   
   And if you are not sure about it, don't post it. ,, This will make the admin more angry and they will ban your IP address.
   
   Then you won't be able to view the site at all. , Forums forbid multiple accounts and will ban you for this. , Or you could be banned from that forum as well.
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   Step 3: and so everyone will read what you post.

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   Step 4: If a member is rude to you or says something to you that you do not like

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   Step 5: do not be rude back to them.

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   Step 6: If a forum member continues to be rude to you or writes an offensive post about you

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   Step 7: do not post offensive comments back to them.

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   Step 8: If the thread you are posting on turns into a flame war

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   Step 9: or heated arguments with other members

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    Step 10: it is best to leave the discussion and not post on there again.

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    Step 11: If a forum member or other forum members say something to you or give advice you do not like

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    Step 12: or are unsympathetic towards your problem you have posted about.

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    Step 13: Sometimes if a topic gets out of hand or cannot be resolved or it turns into a heated argument.

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    Step 14: Think before signing up for the forum.

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    Step 15: If you are not happy with the forum

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    Step 16: it is better to leave that forum and find another forum that you are happy with.

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    Step 17: If you are banned from the forum DO NOT sign up again on that forum with another user name and email address.

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    Step 18: Do not sign up with another account and username on the same forum you are a member of.

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    Step 19: If you get banned from a forum

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    Step 20: do not post on the new forum that you were banned.

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