How to Cheer up Your Girlfriend
Be there for her., Be tender with her., Talk about how she's feeling., Be an active listener., Remind her of what's true.
Step-by-Step Guide
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Step 1: Be there for her.
Whether your girlfriend is experiencing a bad day, has been hurt by someone, is stressed, or is angry, be there for her in her present mood.
It can be easy in times when someone isn't really fun to be around to ignore them or spend your time elsewhere.
However, no matter what mood your girlfriend is in, you can be the most supportive person by sticking by her side.If your girlfriend is looking down in the dumps, don't assume she doesn't want to be with you.
Continue to try to spend time with her, inviting her to do things with her or just sitting with her while she mopes.
You can ask her if she needs anything, but mainly you just want to show her that you aren't going to desert her in her time of need.
Don't be too pushy though
-- give her the space she needs.
Feel out the situation and see if she wants your company or not. -
Step 2: Be tender with her.
Sometimes all your girlfriend may need is a sweet hug or tender touch from you.
If you notice that your girlfriend looks upset or is feeling down, embrace her in a strong hug or hold her in your arms.
She may not speak or open up much during this time, but just sitting next to you and being comforted by your physical touch may be enough to help lighten her mood.The most important thing to do when your girlfriend is upset is be patient with her.
She may act a little more moody, or may be more prone to become irritated by things you do.
Just give her time to recover and cheer up and don't try to force her into a cheery mood.
Also, if it is taking longer than you anticipated for her to cheer up, don't ask her "When are you going to cheer up?" That's likely just going to make her more upset., Your girlfriend may be going through something difficult, or she may be just experiencing a gloomy day.
Either way, some people just need to vent and talk about their feelings so that they can ease their mind a little.
Ask her how she's feeling and if she wants to talk about it.
If she does choose to open up, don't try to fix her problem or pity her.
Just be understanding and try to encourage her.Some questions you can use to initiate this conversation are "How are you today?" "I notice you aren't acting like yourself... is something wrong?" "It seems like something is bothering you... do you want to talk about it?" If your girlfriend is hesitant or doesn't want to talk about something, don't pry.
Give her the time she needs to think through things.
She may just be having a bad day and doesn't really have much to say about it, so don't assume something is terribly wrong.
If your girlfriend is upset or mad about something, you may just need to give her space.
She may not be in the mood to talk about it or she may get angry if you probe her too much.
If you are sensing this is the case with your girlfriend, don't ignore her, but try to allow her to come to you with whatever is bothering her before you ask her. , Sometimes in relationships you want to fix the other person's problems or you feel so burdened by them that you want to take them upon yourself.
If your girlfriend is opening up to you, don't immediately try to fix her problems.
Many times people don't want a solution to their problem
-- they just want an ear to listen.
Focus your energy on listening well and encouraging her by telling her things will be all right.
Don't give her suggestions for how she can fix her problem.One way to show your girlfriend you are truly listening to her is by summarizing what she said, so that she knows you are paying attention.
After your girlfriend has expressed something, pause, and then say something like "so you're saying you are feeling this way because..."Validate your girlfriend as she talks to you.
Explain to her how you appreciate her opening up to you. , Your girlfriend may be in a situation where she is feeling insecure about herself or believing lies about herself that society or others have tried to push onto her.
In those moments, remind your girlfriend of what is true.
If she is really stressed about a test and doesn't feel she can handle it, remind her of all of the ways she has succeeded in school.
If she was rejected from a job, remind her of all of her good qualities and that the job hunt just takes time.
If she is feeling insecure about her looks, remind her how beautiful she is.
If your girlfriend is experiencing personal loss, like someone in her family or one of her friends died, you don't need to remind her of what is true.
Comfort her, be a listener, and express your sympathy.
You can ask her if she wants to talk about it or how she is doing, but don't try to present the "glass is half-full" approach.
You don't need to dwell on the loss, but you also don't want to undermine it by just reminding her things will get better, or of all of the good things going on in her life.
In this situation just love her and comfort her. -
Step 3: Talk about how she's feeling.
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Step 4: Be an active listener.
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Step 5: Remind her of what's true.
Detailed Guide
Whether your girlfriend is experiencing a bad day, has been hurt by someone, is stressed, or is angry, be there for her in her present mood.
It can be easy in times when someone isn't really fun to be around to ignore them or spend your time elsewhere.
However, no matter what mood your girlfriend is in, you can be the most supportive person by sticking by her side.If your girlfriend is looking down in the dumps, don't assume she doesn't want to be with you.
Continue to try to spend time with her, inviting her to do things with her or just sitting with her while she mopes.
You can ask her if she needs anything, but mainly you just want to show her that you aren't going to desert her in her time of need.
Don't be too pushy though
-- give her the space she needs.
Feel out the situation and see if she wants your company or not.
Sometimes all your girlfriend may need is a sweet hug or tender touch from you.
If you notice that your girlfriend looks upset or is feeling down, embrace her in a strong hug or hold her in your arms.
She may not speak or open up much during this time, but just sitting next to you and being comforted by your physical touch may be enough to help lighten her mood.The most important thing to do when your girlfriend is upset is be patient with her.
She may act a little more moody, or may be more prone to become irritated by things you do.
Just give her time to recover and cheer up and don't try to force her into a cheery mood.
Also, if it is taking longer than you anticipated for her to cheer up, don't ask her "When are you going to cheer up?" That's likely just going to make her more upset., Your girlfriend may be going through something difficult, or she may be just experiencing a gloomy day.
Either way, some people just need to vent and talk about their feelings so that they can ease their mind a little.
Ask her how she's feeling and if she wants to talk about it.
If she does choose to open up, don't try to fix her problem or pity her.
Just be understanding and try to encourage her.Some questions you can use to initiate this conversation are "How are you today?" "I notice you aren't acting like yourself... is something wrong?" "It seems like something is bothering you... do you want to talk about it?" If your girlfriend is hesitant or doesn't want to talk about something, don't pry.
Give her the time she needs to think through things.
She may just be having a bad day and doesn't really have much to say about it, so don't assume something is terribly wrong.
If your girlfriend is upset or mad about something, you may just need to give her space.
She may not be in the mood to talk about it or she may get angry if you probe her too much.
If you are sensing this is the case with your girlfriend, don't ignore her, but try to allow her to come to you with whatever is bothering her before you ask her. , Sometimes in relationships you want to fix the other person's problems or you feel so burdened by them that you want to take them upon yourself.
If your girlfriend is opening up to you, don't immediately try to fix her problems.
Many times people don't want a solution to their problem
-- they just want an ear to listen.
Focus your energy on listening well and encouraging her by telling her things will be all right.
Don't give her suggestions for how she can fix her problem.One way to show your girlfriend you are truly listening to her is by summarizing what she said, so that she knows you are paying attention.
After your girlfriend has expressed something, pause, and then say something like "so you're saying you are feeling this way because..."Validate your girlfriend as she talks to you.
Explain to her how you appreciate her opening up to you. , Your girlfriend may be in a situation where she is feeling insecure about herself or believing lies about herself that society or others have tried to push onto her.
In those moments, remind your girlfriend of what is true.
If she is really stressed about a test and doesn't feel she can handle it, remind her of all of the ways she has succeeded in school.
If she was rejected from a job, remind her of all of her good qualities and that the job hunt just takes time.
If she is feeling insecure about her looks, remind her how beautiful she is.
If your girlfriend is experiencing personal loss, like someone in her family or one of her friends died, you don't need to remind her of what is true.
Comfort her, be a listener, and express your sympathy.
You can ask her if she wants to talk about it or how she is doing, but don't try to present the "glass is half-full" approach.
You don't need to dwell on the loss, but you also don't want to undermine it by just reminding her things will get better, or of all of the good things going on in her life.
In this situation just love her and comfort her.
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