How to Prevent Divorce

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Your spouse is the best friend you have

   Know the team members, know yourself.
   
   Without self-knowledge you cannot be in charge of your own life, without knowing what the other one thinks, you cannot have unity as a couple.
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   Step 2: you're a team.

   What is our identity as a couple? How do we want to be known? (How do I want us to be known?) What do we (I) want in our personal life? What do we (I) want in our marriage? What do we (I) want for our family? How do we (I) want to be as a couple? How do we (I) want to be as parents? How do we (I) want to treat each other? How do we want to treat our children? What kind of environment do we (I) want in our home? , Discipline of children Finances Chores Other responsibilities (shared) , Lack of respect? Lack of communication? Physical/emotional abuse? Money? Work? Religion? Children's conduct? Relatives? Alcohol/drugs/gambling? Sex issues? Health? Recreation? ,,, Use the “ I ” message. , Trust: unconditionally, not based on any proof, but given as a gift.
   
   Based in being honest with each other.
   
   Sharing: thoughts and feelings without fear of being criticized, just to have an empathic ear.
   
   Effective Communication: made of two actions first listening and responding using the I message.
   
   Listening: listen for the message behind the words.
   
   Use the I statement to respond. , Review and remind yourself of this.
   
   Keep team building.
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   Step 3: Make a personal evaluation of your marriage: What is the purpose of your marriage?

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   Step 4: Consider how the responsibilities are divided in your home.

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   Step 5: Sit down and work out what is your biggest problem at present.

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   Step 6: Know the actions that lead to team destruction: Criticism Blame Nagging Yelling Complaining Manipulating Use of silence as punishment Use of sarcasm Threatening.

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   Step 7: Know the road to team building: Love Trust Support Encourage Accept.

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   Step 8: Use active listening.

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   Step 9: Consider the factors in a healthy relationship: Respect-Mutual understanding by placing yourself in the other persons shoes and accepting the other as they are and not as want them to be.

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    Step 10: Remind yourself that things and people change.

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