How to Know if Someone Is Talking Behind Your Back

Step-by-Step Guide

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   Step 1: Note if they are constantly whispering to other people

   This is the most obvious sign.
   
   However, do not assume someone is talking about you just from body language, such as staring, giggling, whispering when you're not around, and/or cutting off a conversation when you approach.
   
   Even though this can be a sign, it doesn't necessarily mean it.
   
   For example, if a group of people stop talking when you approach, but continue when you leave, they might be talking about something they don't want anybody to hear, not just you.
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   Step 2: and when you come they abruptly turn back.

   Don't just confront them automatically; it will make the situation worse, and if they weren't talking about you at first, after a confrontation, they certainly will.
   
   Find out if they are suddenly asking more personal questions behind your back. , If they used to be your friend, they are now isolating themselves away from you. , It is ok to ask friends for advice, but don't be upset with them if it doesn't go your way.
   
   Don't ever hurt the person you "think" might be talking about you because chances are they're not.
   
   Be careful of who you confide in and where you confide. , It's happened to many before, and it hurts.
   
   Either build the relationship, or cut it off, depending on how serious it is. , Who were they talking to? Why did they say it? What did they say? What did they mean by it? How much does it hurt? Who is the person who said it? Can I build back my relationship with them? Should I confront them (only to be done IF you know the person well , if you're certain they're talking about you, and if you're sure it won't make you look bad). ,,,,
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   Step 3: If you suspect someone is talking behind your back

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   Step 4: find more proof.

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   Step 5: Watch for signs of distancing.

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   Step 6: Avoid involving a friend in the matter because this will only get them into the fight.

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   Step 7: If you figure out your best friend is talking behind your back

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   Step 8: then maybe they aren't really a friend after all.

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   Step 9: Think about the circumstances.

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    Step 10: If they suddenly stop talking (as in not even finish their sentence) and stare at you

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    Step 11: then they probably are talking about you.

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    Step 12: If you are speaking behind ANYONE'S back

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    Step 13: anyone in the world

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    Step 14: you might as well forgive them for it and move on forgiving yourself just for noticing.

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    Step 15: If this person gossips about others to YOU

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    Step 16: then they probably gossip about you to other people also.

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    Step 17: Realize that if everyone were perfect

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    Step 18: you wouldn't be facing such a thing

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    Step 19: so being that nothing is perfect

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    Step 20: you do have to expect as much from anyone.

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